Online dating tips:
Safety tips:
Don't give away to a complete stranger:
- your full name
- your home address and phone number
- your work address and phone number
Use an anonymous webmail-account
like hotmail
or mail.com
For the first date, choose a public
place, like a restaurant, a café,
where you feel safe and there are
people around.
Tell a friend where you are going,
and when you expect to be back. If
you are late, call and let your friend
know.
Don't get into a car with a stranger.
Don't rush into it. Try to learn about
the other person via e-mail first
and be alert if he/she tells the truth,
be extra careful or walk away if you
have a strange feeling about what
he/she is telling you.
Insist on getting a photo of the person
you want to meet beforehand. If somebody
doesn't want to send a photo, he/she
may have something to hide.
Arrange a phone call before you meet
a person, the voice and use of words
can tell you a lot. Better make this
call from a public phone - the person
might have a device to take note of
your phone number.
Be suspicous when your possible
date:
- provides inconsistent information
about her/his age, looks, employment,
marital status, location, profession
- refuses to speak to you on the phone
after some time of online conversation
- doesn't give answers to direct questions
- is different in person than he/she
was online
- never introduces you to his/her
family, friends, colleagues
Be sure to have a possibility
to return home after the date - don't
rely on him/her giving you a ride,
or to hike!
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Tips for your ad:
Take enough time to write your ad.
Your ad has to give an impression to the
people who read it which kind of person
you are. (If you just write: enjoy sports
and parties, that could be everyone - mention
some detail that will make you stand out
from the others!)
Describe yourself and be honest!
Write about yourself - your height and
weight, ethnicity, hair style/colour, eye
colour and age. Be honest with your description
- latest when you actually meet somebody,
it will turn out when you told lies about
yourself. (Like, when you described yourself
as an 23 year old junior manager looking
like Brad Pitt, and you actually are a 55
years old and a little overweight).
If you don't tell the truth, you will disappoint
your date, and you will disappoint yourself
- and make a fool of yourself when it comes
to a personal meeting!
Be creative!
Make your ad unique and outstanding with
an original headline, memorable experiences
or quotes, or by showing a good sense of
humour.
Describe exactly what you want
Who should the person you want to meet
be? Be specific what you are looking for.
What should the person look like? What should
be his/her marital status? Should he/she
be smoker/non-smoker? Like to party, or
be more domestic? Should she/he have children
or not? Are you looking for a date/romance/marriage?
List what's most important to you
If you enjoy nothing more than parachuting,
say so. You don't want to meet somebody
who seems a good match, but suffers from
Altophobia (fear of heights).
List your hobbies and interests
If somebody does share interests with
you, it's more likely he/she will respond
to your ad.
Keep your ad in good taste
It will give you better responses
from people with serious interests.
Don't make a "shopping list"
Don't write lots and lots of criterias
how your match should be - it's better to
describe yourself in more detail and let
the reader decide if he/she feels it's a
match
Check for spelling and grammar
Before you press that "submit"
button, check again if spelling and grammar
is right. Don't write your ad in capital
letters only LIKE THIS, it is regarded as
very unpolite on the net.
Don't tell the history of your life
It's too early for that - it could bore
people, and you do want to have something
left to say when you meet your date!
For security, do not include a personal
contact address in your ad (phone number,
address, full name)
Use an anonymous e-mail account, or the
contact possibility provided by the provider
of the dating-service you are using.Always
be polite
When somebody took the time to respond to
your ad, be polite and corteous.
In case you can't reply to all responses
to your ad, at least give them a short e-mail
telling them so.
If you promise to reply later, do so.
When you don't want to meet somebody, also
let them know with a short message, telling
them thank you for your message, but you
won't meet him/her, and a polite explanation
why not (already found somebody else, not
enough in common, ....), and good luck.
Never forget the person you are dealing with
is a real person, even if you know him/her
only through e-mail! It's a person just
like you, who doesn't want to be hurt in
his feelings, and doesn't like to be rejected!
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